Can’t decide – Too many choices!
Decisions are something we need to make every day. From small decisions to large decisions – and it’s not always easy making them.
Does it have to be about yes or no?
Recently, I was sitting in a bakery when a mum and her two kids came in for a treat. The mum asks the kids to choose which cake they would like. The kids ran up and down the counter carefully eyeing up the range of cakes on offer and pondered the options, looking like they were tasting each one in their imagination first. One shouts ‘I want the cake with the smarties. No, can I have the one with the chocolate topping or maybe …” It went on for a few minutes before the mum got frustrated and said, ‘Make a decision, which one do you want?’. The kids who by saying yes to one treat, had to say no to all the other options.
What is a decision?
Decision is a Latin word derived from two words. Cision is to cut, De is from. So, it basically means to cut from. When we make a decision, we cut off from other possibilities, in other words when we make a choice and say yes to one thing, it means we have to say no to other possibilities. With so many choices in life and business some people find it really difficult to make big life decisions.
Napoleon Hill, author of the famous book Think and Grow Rich said that ‘LACK OF DECISION was near the top of the list of the 30 major causes of failure’, He said ‘This is a fact’.
The pain of procrastination
Procrastination is the opposite of decision and is something we need to overcome if we want to do better in life. This is relevant at every stage – at Government level, business or personal level, indecision impacts productivity and slows down the marketplace. It slows us down and often causes us to miss opportunities.
Back to the bakery
Making the choice to go with the doughnut and say no to the cupcake faces us with the biggest challenge to decision making – how is my choice going to impact my life? Some decisions have very short-lived impacts. Which cake I choose, or what I have for dinner isn’t that material, however some decisions can have life changing and in cases catastrophic impacts.
So how do you decide?
People use different strategies for making big decisions, like changing jobs or ending a relationship, moving to a new location, or starting a business. One of the most common approaches is to make a list of ‘pros and cons’. Quite often the list of con’s will be longer because it is driven by fear. Of course, by its very nature it is ineffective to compare (pro’s) positives and negatives (cons) because you are not comparing like with like.
Another approach is to use the rubber band model. When I have a big decision to make, I think of a large rubber band pulled in two directions. One direction is not right and the other wrong, they are simply different. On one side, make a list of ‘what is holding me’ and on the other side a list of ‘what is pulling me’. This way you end up with two positive lists to compare and contrast and choose the one that one appeals more.
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Great post. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and wisdom. !
Very thought provoking. I had no idea that Decision was a latin word
Hi Laura, thanks for taking the time to respond. really glad you got value from it. Do keep an eye out for my next one. E
A very interesting subject indeed and I would agree that the ability – or inability – to make a decision is key to anyone’s success, even if the decision made is ultimately the wrong one, the impact of not making a decision at all could be many times more detrimental to your goals.
Nice piece! Thanks
Hi Niall, thanks for your thoughtful response. Indeed, indecision is a decision in itself. All the best. E
Great post. Really enjoyed it!
Hi Deirdre, thanks for your feedback and glad you got value from it. Feel free to download my free eguide with lots of useful tips on managing your mindset. (its on my webiste) https://www.evelyncormican.com All the best. E
Interesting post. Thought provoking
Thanks Jan for the feedback. Keep checking my blog post. I will have an interesting one next week. All the best E
I love the positivity in the rubber band method. I’ll try it next time I need to make a big decision.Tha
Thanks Allison, Please let me know how it goes. Keep up the good work. All the best E
Highly informative and thought provoking.
Thanks for sharing
Hi Tina, Thanks for taking the time to read it and reply. I hope you are keeping well. E
Hmm, i can’t decide if I’ll comment or not. Hmm, Must make a list
Wozza, you are such an inspiration and so thoughtful. Don’t overdo it!.
Very informative blog.
These days in the name of freedom, we are given too many choices.
Sita, indeed that is true. however, these days many people have to make bigger decisions in careers, business and life in general. Many will be based on careful financial analysis while others will be based on emotions. Hope you found it useful. All the best E